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 Big Big Feelings

We all have big feelings. Even if you are one who do not like to acknowledge it, we all have them. We may feel scared, frustrated, angry, jubilant, passionate, silly, happy, ecstatic, sad, elated, annoyed, and so many other things. Our culture has taught us to keep certain emotions deep down to not be seen as “weak," you may not know how you feel or you could even use other emotions to cover up what you are truly feeling.

Why is it important to experience feelings? 

Our bodies and minds are wired with feelings to establish connections, identify worry signs, identify what we like or dislike, to understand what we need emotionally, to protect ourselves and so many other things.  Our emotions serve a purpose but if we do not allow our bodies to utilize these emotions then we begin to loose sight of why we need them.

How do we retrain our brains to experience feelings?

We must acknowledge when we allow our true feelings to be masked by other feelings or when we are dismissing a feeling. We must identify what we are truly feeling and ways to shift our thinking patterns. Such as: “I am feeling defensive, but I am not really wanting to be defensive because I truly feel a lack of understanding in this class.” After acknowledging the feeling that your showing, the feeling that you truly have ask yourself "why am I wanting to stop the true feeling from happening?" Maybe its because you are embarrassed, ashamed, or worried about others reactions. Maybe its just because its uncomfortable. Or it could be because its easier not to. 

Whatever the reason, dismissing our feelings creates mental blocks and creates emotional struggles that stick with us. Opening up our ability to explore emotions and reactions can help us to understand what we need, how we think and ultimately how we are feeling.

Take a few minutes each day to identify 5 feelings you have at different times of the day. I suggest morning, lunch time and before bed. Not only will this help you to start to identify your feelings but it will also give you space to reground yourself and check in with your emotions. 


You are wonderful, good people. 😊

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