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Managing feeling out of control

Now that we are back into the swing of things with school, sports, life and everything in between, I have heard that life is getting a bit stressful. Weather or not its just struggling with having enough time to complete everything, feeling that your overwhelmed with work or just having a hard time balancing everything going on, people are really feeling the impact of our current world and our daily obligations. 

One thing I have learned is that we should not be worrying about things we cannot control. We should only stress about things that we can change. If you think about this idea, when you look at things that your stressing about or worry about, do you feel like your stressing or worrying about things you can control or change? 

Here are a few tips, tricks and ideas to help you work through some of the stress and worrying that you may be consumed with. 

Create a priority list. This can be daily, weekly, monthly. This list is to allow you to visually see and establish what your priorities are for the time period. Maybe its a priority for you to call back the doctors office, make time to fix dinner for your best friend or it could be making sure you watch your favorite TV show this week. This is to allow you to establish what you want and need. 

Look at your priority list and ask yourself why these things are important to you. Is it important because you want control? Because you want something out of your actions? Because you want to be appreciated? Do you want to be connected or because you want to be the center of attention? Whatever the reason, when you think what is important to you, why its important then you are able to shift your focus to be able to understand your priorities. 

Know when it is time for you to delegate or relinquish control. Although there are times when this is not possible- look at times that you can. Maybe its that you want to be the person who gets your little sister ready for school but it always makes you late. See if you can ask your parent to help or ask your sister to get themselves ready for school. Maybe you want to be the one to do warm ups with your sports team but your always late and get frustrated because you have to rush to get everything done. Let someone else do the warm ups.

Know when its time to ask for help. Ouch, this one always hurts a lot of people when its said. Asking for help is difficult, but when its done, your allowing yourself to be important. Your letting yourself know that you are capable of advocating for yourself and that its okay to ask for help. Asking for help also alleviates some of the pressures that you may be facing. It is not a sign of weakness and its not a sign of low motivation. 

Know when its time to walk away. There comes a time when it is necessary to walk away. This is way of you establishing boundaries for yourself. This may mean that you do not have the time or the space in your schedule to accommodate or you may not be able to emotionally engage in what is being asked of you. Its okay to say that your at your max capacity and walk away. 

Taking care of yourself can be a priority if you allow that for yourself. If we make space in our lives for these few things we can create space in our lives to give more to our priorities, to focus on whats important to you and for you to decrease your feelings of worry and lack of control. 


Stay positive good people. 


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